Many guys don’t bother flirting with beautiful women because they don’t believe they’re good-looking enough to date them.
The question is: do looks matter that much to the fairer sex?
Is it really worth discounting your chances if you’re not in her league physically? Or are there other factors that are more important?
Below, we break down both arguments.
Why good looks are important for women
Society is obsessed with beauty.
The media is constantly telling us that looks do matter. Marketers push this message to sell clothes, grooming products, fitness products etc. Showbiz columns focus on what celebrities look like as much as what they achieve. The best-looking celebrities get the most coverage, helping them rise to the top.
This is part of the reason why society gives status to all good-looking people. Many women believe a good-looking boyfriend will boost their social status.
What’s more, good looks are an indicator of a healthy man who can provide healthy offspring. A tall, strong partner can potentially protect her better. Plus, there’s the superficial benefit of being nice to look at.
These advantages are undeniable, but that doesn’t mean there’s no hope for men who aren’t conventionally handsome.
Why good looks aren’t a big deal for women
When women are fawning over Hollywood celebrities or writing ‘no short guys’ on their Tinder profile, they’re usually in a logical state of mind.
Thankfully, they experience emotional attraction far more powerfully than logical attraction. In fact, she’ll often completely disregard logic if you can stimulate her emotions correctly.
If you can learn to make her laugh, surprise her, tease her, build sexual tension, create a fun atmosphere etc, you’re well on your way to having her obsess over you.
This is what we call ‘good game’.
Let’s say you also have logically attractive traits, such as confidence, masculinity, wealth, leadership skills and a fun social life.
Suddenly choosing the guy who only has good looks over you seems a bit silly.
Why do girls choose good-looking guys over me?
Maybe you have a handsome friend who hooks up with tons of women, despite being a complete degenerate.
Perhaps you’ve had women blow you out within seconds of meeting you, while your better-looking buddy hooks up with her in a similar amount of time.
On the surface, this provides strong evidence that looks are the be-all and end-all.
However, it could also be argued that good-looking guys tend to have naturally better game. They can display confident body language, walk up to women and open the conversation without any nerves. They treat beautiful women as if they deserve them. After all, they’ve enjoyed a whole lifetime of society telling them they’re awesome.
You can learn to act the same way.
You can improve your looks
Still not convinced that good game and good prospects can outclass ‘good looks’?
Then, improve your looks.
Most guys can look better than average by working out and fixing their fashion.
If you believe that looking better will improve your chances with women, it will. You’ll feel more confident, act more confident and therefore come across as more attractive. Plus, you’ll be healthier. It’s a win-win.
More importantly though, ask yourself what worrying about your looks actually achieves?
All it does is ruin your confidence, making you a less attractive person to be around.
Why not instead get to work on the following plan?
Lift weights. Improve your fashion. Fix your nutrition. Develop ‘good game’.
Then, go show some women a great time.
Those who follow this formula without feeling sorry for themselves will find loads of females who want to date them.
For the full story of how I realised good game trumps good looks, check out my book The Thrill Of The Chase
