Meeting new people can be a fun yet nerve-wracking experience. Likewise, going on a date with someone you barely know can make your hands sweaty and imagine things that may happen whether in your favor or not. That is why your first date can be a deal-breaker – it can lead to one thing or another.
However, not all dates are like in the movies where you end up with your first kiss. Sometimes, though, it can be your worst nightmare especially if you are not careful enough. For one, it is normal to meet a person who does not share the same interests and beliefs as you. While many couples find a way to work on their differences, there are also some who unfortunately do not.
Here are dating red flags you should watch out for so you won’t potentially end up in an abusive relationship and wasting your time with that person.
1. Your date constantly talks about his/her ex while you’re together.
It is normal to re-enter the dating scene after you have broken up with someone months or years ago. Moreover, it is also not a bad thing to talk about your previous romantic relationships with someone you’re currently dating. After all, it can be a good way to maintain a conversation and get to know each other more. However, there should be a limit.
When you notice that your date is talking about his or her ex in a negative light, it can actually be a red flag. It is either they have not moved on or blame the ex for the break-up. It can also mean that they tend to blame the other person for any bad thing that happens in their relationship, and that they are expecting you to make the relationship work.
2. Your date is already showing signs of jealousy even if you are only in the dating stage.
If your date is constantly asking you about the guy who liked your default photo, who is calling on your phone or asking a lot of questions about your ex, those are all dating red flags. While it is generally okay to be curious at times during the first few dates, seeming to know everything about you to the point of being invasive of your private life may mean potential trouble on your potential relationship.
3. Your date is “physically present but mentally absent”.
It is normal to feel nervous especially on a first date and your first conversation can be awkward, to say the least. However, it can be a major turn-off if your date is paying attention to other people around you or their smartphone instead of your date. Unless they inform you that they are expecting a call from work or a relative, it can be understandable. Otherwise, you should assume that they are not interested in you. A second date is definitely not in the cards after that.
4. Your date is late but doesn’t care.
Being on time for everything is very important, including first dates. On the contrary, there are some instances that can cause someone to be late such as road accidents or other things people have no control over. With such instances, it is important for your date to let you know.
If they do not tell you or even have the audacity to not apologize for being late, then that’s another red flag for you. It means he or she does not value your time, as well as it is a sign of disrespect. On the other hand, there may be other reasons why your date wasn’t able to inform you beforehand – their phone may have run out of battery, for example. It is understandable, but you don’t really want to be with someone who isn’t prepared for emergencies, do you?
5. Your date is “uncomfortably” romantic.
Everyone wants to feel special on dates. However, be wary if your date is being too romantic on your first date. For example, if your date constantly gives you lots of gifts and affection, the date may be attempting to manipulate you by making you feel extra comfortable with them fast. Be wary of such people because they may use this tactic to take advantage of you or even control you to be in a relationship with them.