Get to know these questions that you should ask to know whether someone makes a good life partner.
Do you like to blind dating? Sure, there will be jitters, but before you freak out that it is another love-at-first-sight, take a deep breath. Should you push through with a second date and deepen your connection? Does she have the potential to make a good life partner?
How would you know if she makes a good life partner? During the first date in blind dating, there is no better way to gauge her than to ask her questions.
We have curated FIVE questions to ask on a first date to know whether someone makes a good life partner.
What is your love language?
Love languages can make or break your connection. Even when starting a new relationship or even during dating, it is essential to discover each love language to manage expectations, prevent frustrations, and strengthen communication and connection.
For the best-selling author Dr Gary Chapman, “One of the most significant indicators of a successful relationship is your ability to connect with your partner on multiple levels. If you are trying to express love in a language your partner doesn’t relate to, it will be no surprise that there will be dis-connect.”
What is your conflict style?
It is better to be prepared for when conflict arises by understanding her conflict style. How she’d respond to a dispute or disagreement will help you determine how to manage and respond to her. Is she competing, accommodating, avoiding, compromising, or collaborating?
Knowing her conflict style as early as possible will help you facilitate discussions, increase understanding, and control emotional responses. Though conflict is a natural occurrence in a healthy relationship, it should not always lead to damage; instead, a step to encourage growth and progress toward a goal.
How would you describe your spending habits? Or how would you spend one million dollars?
In a 2019 study, money is why most couples disagree, regardless of the happiness level within the relationship. Likewise, a survey from the Institute for Divorce Financial Analysts, the money issue is the third leading cause of divorce.
Though, two people in a romantic relationship can’t have the same perspective on finances. However, understanding her spending habit during dating will help you identify whether you have shared values and common goals.
What are your expectations for the relationship?
When committing to a new relationship, being on the same page about things is crucial, especially in the relationship.
- Did she hint at her readiness for a commitment?
- Did she prefer only friendship while dating?
- Did she want her partner to change according to her demand?
- Does she want her partner to put her needs first?
- Would she require her partner always to be available?
Knowing her expectations for the relationship will help you determine your willingness to compromise and commit and respect her unique personality and views. If you are not on the same page, things can cause problems in the relationship.
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Do you want children?
In this modern time, the relationship does not have to move forward with having children. Many couples choose not to have children, while some want many children around. But, couples who have different views on starting a family lead to infidelity and divorce.
Hence, it is crucial to ask her views about starting a family. Whatever her beliefs are, it is essential that you are on the same page to avoid conflict in the future.
As for Anita Chlipala, LMFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Relationship Reality 312, “If you both are adamant about your stance and won’t change your mind, stop dating each other. It’s easier to walk away before you fall in love.”
While these questions may seem awkward to be asked during the first date, you must know her views, and this will help you manage the expectations and decide to deepen the connection.