Most gyms are stacked with beautiful women, but it can seem like there’s never a good opportunity to speak to them.
While these beautifully-toned women are squatting in front of you, their sweaty faces communicate that they don’t want to be bothered.
What’s more, if you do find a decent moment to flirt with her and it goes badly, you could easily develop a reputation as the local creep.
If you’re a single man, it can be torturous having access to these gorgeous women and no idea of how to meet them.
However, there is a way to communicate with these women in a way that won’t weird them out.
Below are some key tips for starting conversations and swapping contact details with women at the gym.
The key mistakes that men make when flirting at the gym
The first step to successfully flirting with women at the gym is understanding the mistakes that make them uncomfortable.
- Staring: It’s natural to be drawn to that supreme female body exercising in front of you. Even so, do your best not to stare. No matter how covert you think you’re being, women can sense when you’re perving on them and they hate it.
- Attention-seeking: Grunting loudly may attract the attention of nearby women, but it’s unlikely to impress anybody. If anything, it’ll only serve to make you look like an idiot.
- Opening conversations in the middle of someone’s set: This is not only poor gym etiquette, but also shows a huge lack of social awareness.
- Giving unsolicited advice: This is regularly cited as the most annoying behaviour that fellow gym members indulge in.
Most gyms are regularly frequented by the same people, so there’s every chance that word will spread about this annoying behaviour.
The best way to impress women at the gym
Most gyms have a community atmosphere among staff and regulars. This can be used to your advantage if you want to meet women there.
What if, instead of only sniper-approaching hotties, you were social with EVERYONE in your gym?
After a short while, you’d become known as the most sociable and popular gym member. Before you know it, the hotties will be expecting (and even hoping for) you to talk to them.
It’ll take some time to develop this reputation, but it’s fun and worthwhile once you know how to do it.
How to approach in a non-invasive way
There are plenty of people who are open to being social in the gym. There are also plenty of topics that work as simple conversation-starters.
Most people will oblige if you ask them to spot you. If you show curiosity about someone’s technique or equipment, most will be happy to share their knowledge. In fact, any gym-related topic will work well, provided you’re you’re showing curiosity and not bragging.
From there, you can transition into a more personal conversation and swap social media details.
The key is to wait for their set to finish before you strike up a conversation. Also, respect when people want to get back to their workout.
How to approach women at the gym
There’s no reason to treat female gym members any differently to men when first meeting them and swapping contact details.
Being overly flirty is a risky strategy, which could earn you a bad reputation.
Keep it platonic at first. Add each other on social media, then use that to invite them to some activity outside the workout space.
If you don’t want to be social at the gym
Being social with everyone at the gym might seem like a lot more effort than making sniper approaches whenever you see a hottie, especially if you’re the sort of guy who prefers his workouts to be a meditative non-social experience.
Most people don’t have the time to spend hours building personal relationships at the gym, but that doesn’t mean you can’t spend a couple of minutes making smalltalk between sets.
This tiny effort will ultimately make it easier for you to approach women at the gym.
They’ll be more open to speaking with the extroverted guy with lots of social proof, compared to the quiet guy who’s always trying to hit on the hotties.
If you’re too shy to socialise at the gym
If you’d like to be more social at the gym, but are too anxious to spark up conversations with strangers, download my free e-book How To Conquer Social Anxiety. This book features tons of useful tips for overcoming social fear and improving your communication skills.