ActiveMan
No Result
View All Result
  • Wellness
  • Style
  • Living
  • Culture
  • Wellness
  • Style
  • Living
  • Culture
No Result
View All Result
ActiveMan
No Result
View All Result

Is Online Dating Bad For You?

by Joe Elvin
in Relationships, Sex
Reading Time: 3 mins read
Is Online Dating Bad For You?
Share on FacebookShare on Twitter

Is online good or bad for you? The answer is: it depends.

The main advantage that people seem to love about Tinder, Bumble, eHarmony etc is the efficiency at which you can meet a potential partner.

The appeal of being able to find a date from the comfort of our own home is undeniable. There are tens of millions people with an online dating account in the United States alone.

But is the efficiency of online dating actually a myth, and does it outweigh the potential pitfalls?

The problems with online dating

If you’re a super-handsome guy with great pictures and a basic grasp of flirting, you can absolutely clean up with women online. If you’re a boss at Coffee Meets Bagel or a Plenty of Fish professional, carry on slaying.

However, if you’re among the masses of average-looking men looking for love online, it’s time to evaluate how efficient these apps are actually proving to be.

In a 2010 blog post, OKCupid founder Christian Rudder suggested that the biggest online dating problem that average men have to deal with is a lack of matches.

He explained that most beautiful women are overwhelmed with messages – and don’t have the time nor the motivation to reply to them.

Frustrated by their lack of responses, men typically spend less time crafting original opening messages, hoping a copy-and-paste approach will prove more time-efficient. Unfortunately, these bland openers fuel women’s apathy even further, creating a cycle where barely anyone meets for a date.

Not a lot has changed since 2010. In fact, things have probably got worse. Rudder failed to mention other problems including the epidemic of catfish, users already in relationships, validation junkies and sexbots.

There’s also no mention of the time wasted on bad dates. It’s near-on impossible to tell whether your online dating match will have a personality outside their smartphone, or even if they’ll look like their pictures, without making the effort to meet up.

If you do manage to score the odd hook-up, you might not be bothered about the time-efficiency of online dating. Sadly, studies have also suggested that heavy users of online dating can end up more superficial with lower self-esteem and less likely to find women attractive. Smartphone romance does come at a price.

What happened when I quit online dating

After breaking up with my last girlfriend, I decided to avoid online dating completely.

This might have meant I missed out a few one-night stands, or even on meeting some women I would have got on with. But it felt great being without the constant swiping, the ghosting, the breadcrumbing, the endless back and forth without ever feeling like you’re getting to know someone better. Instead, I used my downtime to get more writing done, work out or read more.

As a teetotal, I had to grow the balls to approach attractive women offline. The more I tried it, the easier it became. Through practice, I became pretty good at it – and I got to see within minutes whether we had chemistry.

As a result, every first date I’ve been on has gone well. This is far from surprising. I’ve already seen what she actually looks like and whether she’s fun.

What’s more, she’s experienced my actual personality and realized she’d have an awesome time on a date with me. Something she wouldn’t have known if faced only with a Tinder profile picture.

Use ‘real life’ as your primary source of women

While online dating apps can be good fun and a great source of romantic partners, it shouldn’t replace ‘real life’.

If you’re relying on apps like these to meet women, you’ll always be playing a numbers game.

Flirting with women you see in real life is a more efficient strategy. As more men pussy out of speaking to women, they see offline, this strategy will make you stand out as more of a catch. You’ll be able to show off your confidence, sense of humor and charm far easier this way – and that will always be more attractive than what you look like on their smartphone.

Sure, it’s scarier and the rejections sting harder, but for most of us, it’ll still be the most efficient way to meet the woman of our dreams.

Previous Post

The Critical Relationship Between Sleep and Athletic Performance

Next Post

Women’s Guide – Multivitamins and Supplements, to take or not to take

Related Posts

So You’ve Lost the Spark: Now What?

So You’ve Lost the Spark: Now What?

January 20, 2022
161

For most couples, the quality of sex plays a big role in the long-term success of the relationship. Once the...

Use Roman Swipes, Fulfill your Fantasy and Last Longer in Bed - 2022

Use Roman Swipes, Fulfill your Fantasy and Last Longer in Bed – 2022

January 11, 2022
425

Premature Ejaculation is the most common problem amongst men. If you too are suffering from this then do not worry....

6 Things to do Before Baby Comes

6 Things to do Before Baby Comes

October 9, 2021
134

Welcoming a baby into your life is one of the most exciting and joyous things that will happen to you,...

How Can I Improve My Libido and Sexual Health Without Medications?

How Can I Improve My Libido and Sexual Health Without Medications?

October 21, 2021
348

Over the past few months, the passion you once shared with your spouse has dwindled by a lot. You don't...

How to Give Your Woman the Orgasm of Her Life!

How to Give Your Woman the Orgasm of Her Life!

February 11, 2021
726

Contrary to popular opinion, getting a woman to orgasm isn't easy. According to research, a huge orgasm gap exists between...

how to last longer in bed reddit

7 Techniques Real Men are Using to Last Longer in the Bedroom

March 20, 2022
2k

The time it takes a man to finish VS the time it takes for a woman in the bedroom is...

10 Delicious Foods To Eat This Week That Will Boost Your Sex Drive

10 Delicious Foods That Will Make You Horny

June 16, 2021
8.4k

What foods will you make you hornier? That’s right. Food is definitely something that can actually boost your sex drive....

10 Signs She Is Cheating On You

10 Signs She Is Cheating On You

September 22, 2018
594

Is she cheating on you? These 10 telltale signs will tell if she is being unfaithful.

A Case For Small Talk

A Case For Small Talk

September 22, 2018
135

We're all pretty sure that we're too important or have far too much going on for small talk. The "weird...

Load More

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Lower Your Risk of Heart Disease: 7 Heart-Healthy Tips Shared By Experts

Sex Drive Killers: 5 Foods and Drinks Ruining Your Bedroom Game

Amp up Workouts with Running Shoes for Men

7 Grooming Essentials For Men: Discover How To Maximize Your Handsome Potential

4 Best Ways to Keep White Sneakers Shoes Clean

Men’s Fashion 2023: Best Classy Collection To Wear

  • About
  • Disclaimer
  • Email us: [email protected]

© 2023 ActiveMan. All rights reserved. Registration on or use of this site constitutes acceptance of our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. All the information on this website – activeman.com – is published in good faith and for general information purposes only. ActiveMan does not make any warranties about the completeness, reliability, and accuracy of this information. Any action you take upon the information you find on this website (ActiveMan), is strictly at your own risk. ActiveMan will not be liable for any losses and/or damages in connection with the use of our website. ActiveMan might get paid commissions on purchases made through our links to retailer sites. ActiveMan is a registered trademark of Placeful, Inc.

No Result
View All Result
  • Wellness
  • Style
  • Living
  • Culture

© 2022 ActiveMan. All rights reserved. All images property of their respective owners. ActiveMan is a registered trademark of Placeful, Inc.