Being single is hard, dating is hard, relationships are hard, but the right relationship feels pretty natural.
Don’t get me wrong; it’s more than just a feeling that clues you into whether it’s the right or wrong relationship for you in the long run. Here are a few signs to see if the relationship you’re currently in is healthy and good for you!
1. You look forward to seeing your partner rather than dread it
Coming home from work to your partner or going out for a date night after a long week should be a pleasant experience. Your relationship shouldn’t feel like a burden and your partner shouldn’t either. You should be excited to see one another and spend time together. It should never feel like a chore, and you should never feel like you’re just checking the boxes.
2. You’ve grown since the beginning of your relationship
You aren’t the same person that you were when your relationship began. You’re a better human being, and you feel that your partner will only continue to support your growth and empower you to be the best version of yourself in the times to come.
3. They fit in easily with your closest friends and family
In an ideal world, your family loves your partner almost as much as they love you and has welcomed them in with open arms and your friends are bummed when your partner can’t make it to a group hang. If this isn’t the case for you, hopefully, your partner is at least cordial with your friends and family and feels comfortable and respected when they’re around them.
4. You can talk about anything
And I mean anything! Sex, finances, beliefs, jealousy, and previous relationships are a few of the more difficult conversations for some couples, but with the right partner, it should be doable.
5. You can function both as a couple and individuals
You’re a great pair, but you still have a sense of self outside of your relationship with your partner. You know who you are with them and who you are without them and feel confident and satisfied about both.
6. You support and check on one another often
You ask them how they are doing, if there’s anything they need, and see if there’s anything you can do for them more than solely when things are going south. Your partner is the first person you call to share something celebratory or not so celebratory and vice versa. They can calm you down or build you up as necessary.
7. You like similar and different things
You share some common interests. There are things that you enjoy doing together and separately and support their interest in things that perhaps aren’t your cup of tea. You nor they have had to stop doing something that they enjoy to maintain your relationship.
8. You’re attracted to their entire being
It’s about more than looks. You choose them daily because of their personality, mind, spirit, and presence. Their good looks are just a bonus!
9. You feel like you can always be your truest self, the real you
No facade is necessary. You don’t feel the need to impress them always or try to be someone that you’re not. You can cry, tell your corniest jokes, wear your favorite sweats, do things that interest you, and be honest about your wants and needs without fear or shame. They accept you and love you for who you genuinely are.
10. You see a future with them
You see your partner in your life one year from now, ten years from now, and when you’re old and gray. Not only do you see them in your future, but it excites you. Whether it be moving in together, getting a dog together, raising a family, traveling the world, or all of the above, you wouldn’t want to do life with anyone else but them!