Contrary to popular opinion, getting a woman to orgasm isn’t easy. According to research, a huge orgasm gap exists between men and women, with the former climaxing during sex significantly more often than the latter. If you’re a man who wants to give your partner the best experience, you must know where to touch, pass, and blow to get her breathing rapidly and gripping onto your sheets. Timing is also crucial as it helps you know where to focus on and for how long to help her experience the peak of pleasure during lovemaking.
So, how do you give your woman those epic orgasms every man likes to think he can and every woman wishes their man could? Here are a few tips:
One of the best ways to enjoy sex is by paying more attention to foreplay. Indulging in ‘pre-game’ lays the foundation for an enjoyable lovemaking experience. Of course, quickies are great every once in a while, but setting sufficient time for foreplay is essential. Otherwise, sex will be uncomfortable, boring, and sometimes even painful – everything your woman doesn’t want.
Remember, this is not a race – so don’t hurry it up to get to the end game. Take your time and arouse your partner slowly and steadily. But there’s more. Use your hands and tongue at the same time for multiple orgasms. Start by gently stimulating her clitoris with your index finger before alternating it with the tip of your tongue. Once you’ve stimulated the clitoris, move to the G-spot and massage it with your ring finger. At this time, sex will be more fun and satisfying for both of you.
Change the Sex Positions
Trying new sex positions helps to keep the passion alive, allowing your partner to orgasm from the excitement of experimentation. So, if you like the missionary position, it’s probably time to ditch it. Instead, go for positions that stimulate her G-spot and clitoris the most. For instance:
- Cowgirl. This position gives the woman the ultimate control during sex. G-spot stimulation is in full throttle, and depending on her movements, she can also stimulate the clitoris.
- Rear entry. While the position might not be the greatest for clitoral stimulation, it offers the best G-spot massage experience. What’s more, it frees your hands so you can use them to stimulate her clitoris or breasts.
- Sit on me. This position provides plenty of intimacy in the form of excellent G-spot and clitoral stimulation. Have your partner sit on a chair, sit on his lap, and straddle your way to seventh heaven.
Experiment with Sex Toys
Another proven way to give your woman the orgasm of her life is by introducing sex toys to your bedroom. Whether she’s used one before or not, sex toys add spice to your sex life, allowing you to achieve the big O. After all, over 80% of women don’t reach orgasm from penetration alone and usually require supplementation via oral and clitoral stimulation.
Luckily, there are numerous sizes, shapes, colors, and materials available to meet your specific needs. Everything from clit stimulators to G-spot vibrators, and rabbit vibes, you’ll be spoilt for choice.
Ample lubrication is essential, especially if you plan on having sex for extended periods. Unfortunately, regardless of how turned on a woman might be, sometimes she can have trouble getting wet. Also, some women tend to experience vaginal soreness after the first. In such cases, sprinkling an adequate amount of lube eliminates discomfort and pain associated with having sex with a dry vagina.
Note: If you’re going to use the lube with a condom or sex toy, go for a water-based lubricant. Unlike other types, water-based lubes are silicone and latex-friendly and won’t damage the condom or sex toy material.
In conclusion, giving your woman an orgasm is not the easiest thing, but that doesn’t make it impossible. And while it’s perfectly normal not to reach the climax every time you have sex, if it becomes a habit, then it might start to affect your relationship. So, before we get there, why not prioritize foreplay, switch positions, experiment with sex toys, and add a lube stash to the mix. After all, there’s no better way to improve intimacy, express your love, and boost your male ego in one go. Is there?